Apprehending the Force of Evil at Halloween

•September 22, 2019 • Leave a Comment

The demonic realm is organized, committed, and obedient. They form as a military troop attempting to wreak havoc on Christians. Their purpose is plain and simple, to send forth destruction, curse Christians, have prophecies not manifest, and to make our lives miserable filled with sickness, accidents, emotional bondage, and every evil thing.

As Halloween approaches and they celebrate their greatest time of evil destruction, they are spending time in preparation and prayer to make sure their destruction goes forth. They are committed to their cause.

One argument I hear from Christians is that evil curses can’t stand and take flight. We loosely claim out we are covered with the blood of Jesus. Therefore, their curses have no power. I do believe the blood of Jesus is more powerful than anything else. I am not discrediting that. I believe when we are in prayer offensively and living an obedient life to the Lord we are covered according to Psalm 91. We live in a fallen world where the demonic roams. If we think we can loosely claim out the blood of Christ covers all, does that mean every person is healed, set free, delivered, and living in financial prosperity because the blood of Jesus covers their sickness, emotional ailments, and poverty? We know that isn’t the reality.

How do we effectively pray against the power of darkness setting out to annihilate us in this season of darkness?  We need to pray audibly, binding, and restricting the powers of evil. In my book, Speak Out, I teach how Jesus and the Father spoke to things, how we have a right to bind and restrict, I teach the power of praying out loud. We can’t fight a spiritual war in our head. Warfare must be fought audibly.

Prayer Points to Target the Powers of Darkness:

  • Pray audibly. Speak out and declare out loud against evil forces, witchcraft and the demonic realm, (See my book, Warfare Declarations, for powerful spiritual warfare prayers to recite.)
  • Pray to send forth conviction from the Holy Spirit to Christians who are celebrating Halloween.
  • Proclaim and decree that witches, warlocks, new agers, Satanists and occultists will be convicted, converted, set free from the powers of darkness and set on fire for God.
  • Pray for Christians who are against Halloween to release intimidation and have boldness in their speech to stand up for their beliefs and share with others in order to make a difference.
  • Bind and restrict demonic curses from going forth and activating in your region. Take dominion over your region by prayer walking your streets or driving around in your vehicle praying.

Warfare Declarations to Pray Audibly:

  • I bind and restrict every evil force operating against my family, church, employment, region, and ministry, in Jesus’ name.
  • Witchcraft operations over me, above me, beneath me, I silence your operations. I speak and decree that your curses and operations will not go forth.
  • Fire of God, apprehend my enemies and the powers of darkness against me. I speak and decree that the fire of God burns up every demonic contract and blueprint ordered against my life, in Jesus’ name.
  • Spirit of the Living God, send forth conviction and matters of people’s hearts to change. Allow them to feel your great love. Give them divine encounters with the Living God the greatest power of all.
  • Every demonic entity assigned to my region, I speak and decree that Jesus gave me power and authority over all things (Luke 10:19). Therefore, I walk in dominion and in the power of God in this region. Therefore, I order your assignment against this region to be nullified, by the blood of the Lamb.
  • I establish a hedge of protection around my health, finances, property, and possessions, in Jesus name. I speak and decree “no weapon formed against me will prosper” (Isaiah 54:17).
  • I command every evil force attempting to operate against me and invade my life to be still now of your commission. I speak and decree you will not penetrate my armor, blessings, or walls of protection. I dwell in the secret place of the Most High. Therefore, no evil will befall me (Psalm 91).
  • I come against any and all spirits of death, destruction, and annihilation of my prophetic destiny. I decree and declare; I will live and not die and declare the works of the Lord (Psalm 118:17).

Speak out and pray audibly to use these prophetically targeted prayers to annihilate and destroy the powers of darkness coming against you, your family, and region. Open your mouth and pray! Your words are prophetically assigned to hit their target with power and authority when you believe and pray!

Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic deliverance minister releasing the love and power of God, to ignite and activate people, release prophetic destinies and deliver people from the bondage of the enemy.  She is the founder of Kathy DeGraw Ministries and Be Love Outreach.  She is the author of several books including; Speak Out, Discerning and Destroying the Works of Satan, Identity Invasion, Who is Speaking? and Warfare Declarations.    You can connect with Kathy on Facebook @ or visit


Why You May Be Inviting Demons Into Your Home

•February 20, 2019 • Leave a Comment

There is power in the words we speak! I will never forget the first time I had a deep understanding of this. I was in a Christian conference, and the speaker was teaching about the demonic and word curses. He was instructing that we shouldn’t say slang phrases such as:

  • You’re going to kill me for this.
  • You’re making me sick.
  • They are sick, and I’ll catch it next.
  • I’m going to kill myself for doing that.
  • The flu is going around, so I’ll probably get it too.

I remember clearly as he was instructing that he broke the word-curses spoken over ourselves, and as he did and cast out the spirits associated with those curses, I felt three demonic spirits of death leave my body. I had been one of those people who would jokingly say, “You’re going to kill me for this.” It was an open door to the demonic world, and the forces of evil had infiltrated me with three demonic spirits of death in my soul.

The Bible talks about self-invited curses and how they can have an effect on us and the generations to follow.

In Genesis 27, we see an example of a self-invited curse. Rebekah was persuading her son Jacob to deceive Isaac, his father, now blind, in order to obtain his blessing (which Isaac intended to pronounce on his other son, Esau). Jacob was eager for the blessing but fearful of the consequences if Isaac should discover his deception. “Perhaps my father will feel me,” he said, “and I will seem to him as a deceiver, and I will bring a curse on myself and not a blessing” (v. 12). Rebekah responded immediately, “Let your curse be upon me, my son” (v. 13a). And the curse was on Rebekah, and she lost the privilege of being with her son.

In Matthew 27, against his own judgment, the Roman governor, Pilate, consents to release to the crowd a murderer named Barabbas and to impose the death sentence on Jesus instead. In order to disassociate himself from this act, however, Pilate washes his hands in front of the crowd and says, “I am innocent of the blood of this righteous Man” (v. 24c).

To this, the crowd responds, “His blood be on us and on our children!” (v. 25b). Here there is a self-imposed curse on themselves and a relational curse on their descendants. Since that time, bloodshed and tragedy has been interwoven in the destiny of the Jewish people.

The Bible clearly instructs us on the power of our words:

  • “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Prov. 18:21).
  • “For truly I say to you, whoever says to this mountain, ‘Be removed and be thrown into the sea,’ and does not doubt in his heart, but believes that what he says will come to pass, he will have whatever he says” (Mark 11:23).
  • “Whoever guards his mouth and his tongue keeps his soul from trouble” (Prov. 21:23).
  • “We all err in many ways. But if any man does not err in word, he is a perfect man and able also to control the whole body. See how we put bits in the mouths of horses that they may obey us, and we control their whole bodies. And observe ships. Though they are so great and are driven by fierce winds, yet they are directed with a very small rudder wherever the captain pleases. Even so, the tongue is a little part of the body and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles. The tongue is a fire, a world of evil. The tongue is among the parts of the body, defiling the whole body, and setting the course of nature on fire, and it is set on fire by hell. All kinds of beasts, and birds, and serpents, and things in the sea are tamed or have been tamed by mankind. But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless the Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who are made in the image of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so (James 3:2-10).

That which we speak out of our mouth can defile our soul. “But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile the man” (Matt. 15:18). A demon cannot infiltrate your spirit man; that is where the Holy Spirit resides, but a demonic entity can infiltrate your soul, your mind, will, emotions and body.

We need to clean up the words we are speaking and even more so renew our mind of false expectations. Just because a person is sick around us does not mean we will get sick. We have been redeemed from the curse. We need to be speaking out and declaring out positive proclamations over our lives and not negativity and idle words for which we will give account and that can have a negative effect on us. In my book Powerful Prophetic Proclamations, I have listed over 50 prophetic declarations that the Holy Spirit inspired me to write, so we are speaking out positive into the spiritual atmosphere.

We must get hold of our tongues and renew our minds to speak out and declare out according to scripture. We must tighten up our word choices, and if it isn’t positive and doesn’t produce good spiritual results, we must be careful to not speak it out into the spiritual atmosphere. How many times have you received what you have spoken in a negative sense? Things we speak out such as:

  • My car is going to break down.
  • I’m going to get fired from my job.
  • This food is making me sick.
  • This bag of groceries is going to rip.
  • That object is going to fall on me.

We need to transition to thinking it instead of speaking it until we can renew our mind not even to think it. There is power in what we speak out; that is why people can be healed, delivered and miracles can happen. However, we also need to know our speech can have a direct result in the negative too. Therefore, before you speak out next time, be slow to speak, and remember, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Prov. 18:21a). 

Kathy’s book Speak Out by Creation House teaches more about the power of the words we speak.

Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic spiritual warfare strategist releasing the love and power of God, to ignite and activate people, release prophetic destinies and deliver people from the bondage of the enemy. She is the founder of Kathy DeGraw Ministries and Be Love Outreach. She is the author of several books, including Speak Out, Discerning and Destroying the Works of Satan, Identity Invasion, Who is Speaking? and Warfare Declarations. You can connect with Kathy on Facebook or visit

Are witches and satanists really seeking Godly power?

•February 6, 2019 • Leave a Comment

We live in a world of spiritual warfare and false religions.  People have gone astray from the word of God and sought out other powers.  Satanism, witchcraft and occult practices are on the rise and in most bookstores have more space allotted for books than the Christian genres.

When you think of witches, warlocks, voodoo priests, and Satanists, they are looking for power and love.  They usually get coerced into false practices and divination through being a rejected child, thrown out on the street, or someone that showed them love like they never had before.  Yes, some are raised, and some make conscious choices to participate in occult practices, but some are simply looking for love.  They are looking for the same love you are looking for, the love and acceptance of people, to be liked and acknowledged.

Being a spiritual warfare minister, I have seen many of these people who throw curses are truly looking for love and power but are caught in a trap of evil.  I believe they are seeking the same love and power we are looking for they just don’t know it is the love and power of God they desire.  As Christians, God has given us a spirit of love and power, “For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and love, and self-control,” 2 Timothy 1:7 MEV.  We want to exude love to everyone we come in contact with, and we want to see God’s power through the demonstration of healings, miracles, and deliverance.

Unfortunately, the people caught up and seduced into evil practices were found by a Satanist or occultist first.  If we the church would get outside the walls of the church and exude God’s love and power in the streets, secular community, and the marketplace, perhaps we could find these people before they are seduced into serving false gods and cursing Christians.

Even so, as Christians, we must realize their curses have no power over us.  Instead of the church embracing and loving these people who are caught up in a false identity we run in fear from them or are uncomfortable being around them.  As I said before, they are looking for love and power and the church has the ability to show them the love and power of Christ, but we aren’t.  I believe when we see a person in a mall that we can tell is serving another master or a witch or warlock come into our meetings to try and disrupt the service we cower in fear of the unexpected instead of realizing what the Scripture says, “You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world,” (1 John 4:4).

We need to arise and take our rightful place and position in the Kingdom of God.  We have been given authority, and when we speak out and declare out through prayer, our words are prophetically assigned, can target a spiritual realm and produce results.  We cannot produce results while in fear, we will only further reject those who need to be accepted.  When we are living an obedient, disciplined life, full of worship, prayer and the word those curses have no power, only what you give them because you open the door to fear and timidity.  Next time you see someone who is operating differently than you take a step out in faith and try and exude the love and power of God, perhaps you’ll lead them to Christ eventually and bring them into the Kingdom of God where they can experience true love and power.

Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic spiritual warfare strategist releasing the love and power of God, to ignite and activate people, release prophetic destinies and deliver people from the bondage of the enemy.  She is the founder of Kathy DeGraw Ministries and Be Love Outreach.  She is the author of several books including; Speak Out, Discerning and Destroying the Works of Satan, Identity Invasion, Who is Speaking? and Warfare Declarations.    You can connect with Kathy on Facebook @ or visit

Discerning and Testing Your Prophetic Words

•August 6, 2018 • Leave a Comment

Discerning and Testing your Prophetic Words

You just received a prophetic word and believe it is from the Lord. Your concern is: “What do I do next?” My concern is what you didn’t do next.

The next step is not taking action on the prophetic word you received, but testing it. Ask yourself questions such as: “Will this bear fruit and glorify the name of Jesus Christ, or will it distract and detour me from my godly assignment?”  Prophesy is in part and your first responsibility is to discern the accuracy of the prophetic word delivered.

When receiving a prophetic word that you believe is from the Lord, you should stop and verify it is from the Lord, and not your flesh desiring it or the enemy trying to distract you. Our own desires can seduce us into thinking something is of the Lord when it is not.  It is wisdom to verify the word (not analyze it) before you take action. Taking the word at face value without seeking confirmation and direction can detour you from the will of God.

We can prematurely act on a word because we feel it makes sense and we have comfort proceeding. We think, “I can do this.” We are comfortable because it makes sense to us in the natural, but the question is: Do we have peace proceeding forth in the spiritual?

We are not natural people; we are spiritual beings. Moving forward with a prophetic word because of our natural comfort is one of the main ways the enemy and our flesh can cause us to proceed in a wrong direction.  It must be tested.

When you receive revelation, a prophetic word or an answer to prayer, take the next step. Discern it. Dissect it. Don’t overthink and don’t analyze. Test it. Bring it back to the Holy Spirit through prayer and test it against the Word of God and what you currently know to be the will of God for your life.


God’s Thought Downloads

God speaks to us through thoughts dropped in our spirit. When God speaks to us, we need not try to figure out the revelation, but rather receive the revelation He is giving.

You may have heard God’s voice before saying, “Don’t do that,” “Take this road instead today” or “Give this much as an offering.” You have heard God as you have prayed and felt you received your answer. However, don’t just feel you have received the answer. Rather, know you have received the answer.

When you receive discernment, ask yourself, “Is this the way God usually speaks to me?” Verify it. He may speak to you in different ways, but it should witness in your spirit.  Ask God, “Why do you want me to head in this direction?”

Test the Scriptures to confirm if the prophetic word and revelation you are receiving aligns with or contradicts God’s Word. God will not tell you to do something that is against His Word. I once knew a woman God had been convicting regarding giving. She felt led to write an offering check for $5,000. She wrote the check in advance of a business transaction that was being completed. The deal fell through and she ended up in debt! That contradicts God’s Word. If she would have tested the discernment, she would have stayed out of debt.


The Flesh Blocks Revelation

Our flesh gets involved in receiving revelation because we think about it instead of pray about it. When thinking about whether a prophetic word is from God, we tend to over analyze it and get impatient waiting on God for an answer.

Analytical people can plan out the answer instead of praying and receiving the answer. During prayer time, analytical people have difficulty shutting down their minds to receive from God. When analytical thoughts come into your mind, transfer those thoughts to your heart, to the place of love, where the Father is.  He will help you accurately discern the word.

When you receive the revelation from a prophetic word ask yourself, “Is this the way I would think?” You may think you heard from God when really what you heard were your own thoughts.  Try to distinguish the difference between hearing God’s voice and hearing your own.


Deceptions and Distractions

If confusion is present in times of discernment, it is from the enemy. “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace” (1 Cor. 14:33).

The enemy will attempt to distract. When we don’t pray about things in advance, it leaves the enemy an open door to sidetrack us.


Testing the Spirits

When testing the spirits, ask yourself if you are feeling convicted. Conviction from the Holy Spirit is quick and calls you to action. He presses you until you act. When a prophetic word is received from the Lord it puts a prophetic burden within our spirit to complete God’s will for our lives.  It calls us to action with a holy reverential fear of the Lord to complete the burden He has placed within us.

Testing the word is important to verify it is of the Lord.  Processing the information until you know the authenticity of the word.  As spiritual warfare occurs, you cannot automatically assume that you can hear God with the same clarity as in other times. All of us have heard wrongly at one time or another, and have regretted the decisions we made in the flesh.  Therefore, making sure we have valid marching orders from the Spirit of the Lord are important before we proceed.

In 1 John 4:1, the Word of God instructs us to test the spirits.

When you receive revelation from God, keep it in front of you and consistently pray it through.


Ask for His will to be further revealed and for Him to give you the spirit of revelation, knowledge, wisdom and understanding (Is. 11:2).

Be in tune and sensitive to the Holy Spirit’s leading and then be obedient.  Persevere and accomplish His will for your life.


Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic healing and deliverance minister releasing the love and power of God, to ignite and activate people, release prophetic destinies and deliver people from the bondage of the enemy.  She is the founder of DeGraw Ministries, Change into Colorless (a racial reconciliation corporation) and Ruach Ha’Kodesh Apostolic Empowerment Center.  She is the author of several books including; Who is Speaking?, Speak Out, Discerning and Destroying the Works of Satan, and Warfare Declarations.    You can connect with Kathy on Facebook @ visit


Words Have Destroying Power

•June 22, 2018 • Leave a Comment

We know there is power in our words.  Words tear down, and words build up.  We get hurt in relationships because of the power of our words.  Our words have destroying power against the people, but our words also have destroying power against the spirit realm.

When you speak out, the spiritual realm must respond.  Jesus has given us authority over the spirit realm. Therefore it must respond by taking action.  The power you carry inside of you and through you is the power to bind and restrict demons and to order them to leave you and your loved ones alone.  You also carry power to dispatch angels and have angels activating on your orders.  But, do you know the power you carry.

The power you carry is available through reading the Bible and learning about the power Jesus left to give us.  You must believe you have authority to release something.  You aren’t going to know that authority until you know your identity in Christ and that the very Spirit of God co-labors with you.

Your words, what you speak out and declare out through prayer and decrees has the power to break up or charge the spiritual atmosphere around you to create change.  How about that?  You have the power to change the spiritual atmosphere around you.

Your words are powerful, but you have to know the power you carry.  You almost have to be arrogant in a holy way and say When I speak the spiritual realm will active.  In fact, those words could be a very declaration you call out to claim it and call it forth.

Try prophesying and declaring over yourself, I speak, and the spiritual realm activates and responds.   Trying looking at yourself and the words you speak out as destroying power and who knows the very thing you destroy just may make room for a new heavenly creation!

Learn more in Kathy’s books Speak Out, Warfare Declarations, Powerful Prophetic Proclamations available at or

Troubled by What Other’s Say

•June 20, 2018 • Leave a Comment
Here’s a quick simple tip to break off another person’s opinion that starts to bother you and distract you.


When a person releases their opinion, remember it is just that, their opinion.  If it does not line up with the word of  God, dismiss it!


How often are you troubled by someone:
  • Trying to act superior over you.
  • Posting a negative, critical, or judgmental social media comment on your post.
  • Offering you unsolicited advice.
If a person’s opinion is not properly weighed and tested to the word of God it has no value and should not be entertained in your mind.


Instead of allowing it to weight you down, simply say to yourself, this doesn’t line up with the Word of God and since I stand on the Word I’m going to dismiss anything and everything that doesn’t line up!


I HOPE you receive some freedom today with this simple mind tip on opinions…and furthermore, help out your friends and family and when they want an opinion go to the Holy Spirit first so that the opinion they receive is a spiritual one and not fleshy!


Have a great day friends!  Continue reading for a few powerful declarations over your mind!


Declare out today:
  • I am renewing my mind with God’s Word.
  • God’s Word is fruitful and productive in my life.
  • I am ignited and changed when I read God’s Word.
  • No weapon formed against my mind will prosper, because it is full of God’s Word.
  • The Lord will be glorified in my life. because the truth of His Word exists in me.
  • I combat every fiery dart of the enemy with God’s Word.
  • I have a sound, disciplined mind, full of the love and power of God.



Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic healing and deliverance minister and the founder of DeGraw Ministries. She is passionate about releasing the love and power of God to empower and activate people. She is the author of several books including, Speak Out, Discerning and Destroying the Works of Satan, and Warfare Declarations. You can connect with Kathy on Facebook



Defeat is Not an Option

•June 13, 2018 • Leave a Comment

We need to move ourselves from a defeated mentality to a victorious mindset.  When life gets rough often we need to speak out; defeat is not an option.  You are not defeated!  Jesus took defeat to the cross so we could be victorious, so the next time you feel like you are defeated remember what He accomplished at the cross!

Keys to Deliverance are being Delivered by Jesus

•June 5, 2018 • Leave a Comment

I could hear the sound of horse hooves in the spiritual realm.  The clip clop sound of a galloping horse.  I could see its legs moving, galloping with a sound as thunder.  On the white horse sits Jesus as rider; the Prince of Peace.  This vision wasn’t referring to His second coming, but to now, what He wants to do in the lives of men.  He is coming with a roll of thunder to clear out the minds of man.

He has an immediate mission in mind to deliver those whose minds have been locked up.  He desires His captives to be set free.  His people’s minds have been bound for too long.  They are locked up, shut up, and closed down.  They aren’t as effective and useful for the Kingdom as He’d like them to be.

In this vision the Lord showed me the bondage around people’s minds.  It was similar to a half helmet, but this helmet is made of metal, specifically steel.  It should be hard.  Spiritual warfare should bounce off it.  I can hear the ting that should take place.  However, His people’s minds are capturing the warfare, capturing the bondage instead of dismissing it.  It should be the helmet of salvation, of deliverance, but it is not.  It reminded me of the article I wrote for Charisma a couple years ago, “How to Guard Your Thoughts Against the Enemy.”

Jesus is riding the horse with the unlocking mechanism in His hands.  He is holding the keys.  He has already given us the keys, the Word of God. But, we aren’t establishing the keys, the Word in our life therefore, we are still bound.  He is jingling the keys to remind us everything we need is in His word.

He has given us the victory in the Word when we know the Word and apply the Word.


The Word says:

But we have the mind of Christ. – 1 Cor. 2:16 MEV

He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. – 1 John 4:4 MEV

No weapon that is formed against you shall prosper. – Isaiah 54:17 MEV

There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. – 1 John 4:18 MEV

Though an army should encamp against me, my heart will not fear. – Psalm 27:3 MEV


We are searching for answers to something we already have.  Jesus has given us the guidelines in His Word, but we are not applying it and speaking it out.  We could renew our thoughts.  We could feel good by simply speaking out scripture.  In my book, Speak Out by Creation House, I teach how to speak out scripture, how to write a scriptural declaration and how to renew your mind.

Mind-binding thoughts have captured us for too long.  They seduce us into thinking negativity and bring us to a place of worry, fear, depression, paranoia and everything ungodly and contradictory to the word of God.  They amuse us by having ourselves occupy our time focused on them, instead of God.  The Lord told me years ago, “Kathy, if your mind is so full of scripture there would not be room for anything else,” such as fear.

Mind-binding spirits trap us into focusing about what we fear.  Think about Sarai.  She was afraid.  She was consumed she couldn’t conceive.  So she gave her handmaid to Abram.  Abram went into her and together Ishmael was birthed (Genesis 16).  However, in our lives we need to ask ourselves, “Do I want an Ismael or an Isaac?”  We need to seek deliverance and be released of mind-binding spirits so we can walk into our promise, our Isaac.

Jesus has given us the keys in His word.  Now we need to open His word, read His word, and apply His word.  It is taking every thought captive and making it submit to and obey God’s word (2 Cor. 10:5).  When we do this there will be no room in our mind for anything contrary to His word.


Declare out today:

  • I am renewing my mind with God’s Word.
  • God’s Word is fruitful and productive in my life!
  • I am ignited and changed when I read God’s Word.
  • No weapon formed against my mind will prosper, because it is full of God’s Word!
  • The Lord will be glorified in my life because the truth of His Word exists in me!
  • I combat every fiery dart of the enemy with God’s Word.
  • I have a sound, disciplined mind, full of the love and power of God.


Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic healing and deliverance minister and the founder of DeGraw Ministries.  She is passionate about releasing the love and power of God to empower and activate people.  She is the author of several books including; Speak Out, Discerning and Destroying the Works of Satan, and Warfare Declarations.  You can connect with Kathy on Facebook @ or visit



Defeating the Spirit of Rebellion in Your Child

•May 9, 2018 • Leave a Comment

I never thought it would happen to our family, I’m sure many Christian parents say that too.  We were all passionately on fire for the Lord, well all, but one.

The verse, “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it” (Prov. 22:6 MEV) took on new meaning after my experience.  I learned crucial keys in the process of dealing with a rebellious child how not to push her further away from God, but draw her back to God.

I never doubted my child would come back.  I knew all along the Spirit would get ahold of her and set her on fire to be a world changer.   There is hope for your child too.  There is hope for any child!  The key to deliverance is two-fold, not just on the child, but also on the parents.  The parents need to rely on the Holy Spirit for wisdom and insight.  The child needs to bind their flesh, submit their strong-will and allow the Holy Spirit to convict them.  We cannot change our children or force them to change, but by the grace of God and guidance of the Holy Spirit we can expect change when we follow the Spirit’s leading.

The first and foremost thing we need to do is to pray a simple prayer over our child.  “Holy Spirit, convict them and expose the truth to them.” This pray is simple, but also in its purest form as we are not praying in manipulation, control or self-made agendas of what we want to see changed in them. The Holy Spirit knows best what needs to be prayed for our child and how to reveal their short comings.

Being pastors if was difficult for my husband and I, to learn our daughter wasn’t interested in the pursuit of Jesus the rest of our family desired.  And even though our daughter was never into drugs, smoking, drinking, or sex, her hyper-sensitive extreme teenage attitude and rebellion was a great strain and stress on our family.

The greatest adjustment was learning to keep my mouth shut when I wanted to force my way or control the situation.  Such as, when I discovered she was listening to country music when only Christian music was allowed in our home.  You have to learn to choose your battles.  While my friend would force worship flags into her daughter’s hands to try and encourage her relationship with the Lord, I took a step back and asked the Holy Spirit, “What do you say about this situation and what should my response be?”  I believe we need to rely more on the Holy Spirit than our flesh and natural reaction if we want to win the war on rebellion.  I know for me it has tremendously helped over the years to get to know who the Holy Spirit is and how He can help me.  Charisma Media has a series called Life in the Spirit.  It can help you draw close and learn more about the Holy Spirit too.

I believe the keys listed below are crucial in helping rebellious children come back to the Lord, instead of driving them further away.  It worked for me, and I hope and pray it will work for your child.  Remember, there is always hope with God, just look at Saul converted to Paul.


Five keys in dealing with a rebellious child:

  1. ALLOW THE HOLY SPIRIT TO LEAD – Seek the Holy Spirit and allow Him to lead and guide your conversation and actions with your child, including when to speak, when to stay quiet and what direction to take next.
  2. BACK-OFF – Don’t push your child, force your opinions or attempt to control them. Give them the space they need.  Pushing and forcing them will only lead them further away.
  3. DECLARE – Pray through declaring prayer. Speak out and declare out your prayers.  Bind and restrict the enemy.  Take authority in the spiritual realm and make sure the devil knows you mean business. (I declared over my child’s room four times and then I saw dramatic change.  You can read about it in my book SPEAK OUT by Creation House.)
  4. PRAY OVER THEIR POSSESSIONS! – Anoint their bedroom, vehicle and possessions with anointing oil. Pray over their food while you prepare it and their clothes while you fold the laundry. Pray and speak out loud into the atmosphere of their bedroom or vehicle.  Anoint their clothes, bed, toothbrush, whatever you can get your hands on, and claim and call them back to the Lord.
  5. PROPHESY IT! – Prophesy their destiny into the atmosphere. Speak and declare they are a world changer and will impact nations.  Speak into the spiritual realm that the devil will not have your child, but that they will be set on fire for the Lord.  Speak and declare, and prophesy what you want to see happen, not in a controlling or manipulative way, but according to the word of the Lord.


Never give up hoping that your child will change; keep believing, that’s what we did.  The Lord told me three times upon dropping my daughter off at college, “This is my will for her life.”  She went to a secular college and her faith began to bloom.  She took a stand against partying, sexual activities, abortion and homosexuality.  She made her faith and stances known in the first year.  She came home that summer and worked on her relationship with me, we are now best friends.

Every year she went back to college, God released more things through her life, she started to blog, and even wrote an article for Charisma Magazine online.  She went on mission trips, got involved in a youth group, led Bible studies and by the last year was living in a church home in a leadership position.  And every summer she came home and worked on another part of rebellion, rejection, or relationships.  She needed the Holy Spirit to lead and guide her and convict her and not her parents for a period of time.

My girl who once went to church out of obligation now can’t wait to get inside the church doors of an apostolic prophetic spirit-filled church.  She recently approached me and is begging me to allow her to travel the nations and minister with me.  And upon moving her home recently, after her senior year, she requested a prayer corner to be set up in her room, in which we gladly obliged.

Again, I want to reiterate the key elements; don’t give up hope, give distance, pray and declare, and let them have the space they need.  Allow the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you and them.  I encourage you to learn how to lean and rely on the Holy Spirit through Charisma Media’s Life in the Spirit Series.

Learn more about the power of declaring prayer through Kathy’s book Speak Out by Creation House.

Kathy DeGraw is a prophetic healing and deliverance minister and the founder of DeGraw Ministries.  She is passionate about releasing the love and power of God to empower and activate people.  She is the author of several books including; Speak Out, Warfare Declarations, Who is Speaking? and Powerful Prophetic Proclamations.  You can connect with Kathy on Facebook @ or visit

Kingdom Preparation – Prophetic Word

•April 26, 2018 • Leave a Comment

PROPHETIC WORD – Kingdom Preparation

What are you doing for the Lord? Are you sitting idly by waiting for time to pass or are you actively pursuing the things of the Lord? The Lord is looking for workers, servants for His Kingdom who are going to shake off worldly habits and activities and get busy building His Kingdom. He does not want us to be slothful, but diligently pursuing His purposes. The Lord wants us to rise up and take on His mannerisms, instead of allowing the world to define and transform us. He has called us for Kingdom purposes; divine purposes, and the Lord says, “It is time to rise up My children, rise up and take your rightful place and authority in the Kingdom.” He says, “There is much work to do to attract people to the Kingdom of God. I need my laborers to rise up and get busy, get active. It is no longer time to sit idly by.” He says, “Why do you not pursue my purposes? What is more important than me.” The Father is not only searching and seeking for those who will worship Him in freedom, spirit and truth, but those who will passionately pursue His presence and draw and lead other people into this Kingdom journey. Christianity is a lifestyle, not a passing daily habit, but something we should pursue to represent and present every day of the week. Living our lives for Christ isn’t always easy, but the benefits out-weigh the struggles. The Lord says, “Are you going to passionately pursue Me like you do the cares and enjoyment you have of the things in this world? I have given you a Kingdom that cannot be shaken. Do you understand that? With Me and My Kingdom you cannot and will not be shaken when you put me first. I have loved you with an everlasting love. I enjoy being with you. You move My heart. Now rise up my saints, get busy, because the time draws near.”