Ridding your child of a poverty mentality

I trained my children at a young age how to speak about lack and not having the money to always purchase what they desired.  I was well into my walk with the Lord when I learned that, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” (Prov. 18:21).  I remember the countless shopping trips to the store or the conversations at home where they would want an item and I would have to say we can’t afford it.


Upon learning the power of my authority as a believer in Christ and that there are words we speak that are not profitable, I decided my family had to change the way we spoke.  I was raised in a poverty mentality and I could see I was putting some of that on my children.  I desired for my children to be different and not think things were not obtainable.  I didn’t want their focus to be on the lack, but on expectations of what they could have, instead of on what they didn’t have.


Prayer requests for finances are the number one thing I receive in my ministry.  People are in financial lack, but more than that they are stuck in a poverty mentality that their financial situation will never change.  I believe this is in part of how we were raised and the words that were spoken into and over our lives.  It still effects how some people think today.


I made a choice to change my words, to speak life into our finances and taught my children to do the same.  Instead of saying, “We can’t afford that,” I would say, “I am choosing to spend my money elsewhere,” or “I am waiting for our financial blessing to manifest.”  Therefore, my children became adapted to say, “Mommy when our financial blessing manifests can I have this?”  It would give them hope our financial blessing would manifest and train them not to always expect less, but to expect more.  I blessed my children with not always hearing the words, we can’t afford that.


By changing our word choices our children weren’t thinking like paupers, but princes and princesses.  They didn’t go around thinking we would always say no, because we didn’t, am I am sure they were glad they didn’t have to hear the dreaded words I can’t afford that.  When we keep releasing those words we hear them as we speak them and sometimes what we hear is truly what we think, whether right or wrong.


“Death and life are in the power of the tongue,” (Prov. 18:21).  When we change our word choices, perhaps we can change our situation.  I know at least it will renew our mind and when it comes to finances we could all stand to increase our expectations and hope for the best.  Try it today, release the old words and impart the new words and discover the life and hope it will bring to your family, financial situation and future.


~ by Kathy DeGraw on July 21, 2016.

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